Do you have habits that sabotage your self-confidence? When it comes to self-confidence, we can be our own worst enemy. Our own negative self-talk can sabotage our efforts to build our confidence levels. This leads to a lack of confidence in our careers and all areas of our lives.

Habits That Sabotage Your Self Confidence

But confidence is essential to building a successful career, moving up the ladder, and being happy in our everyday lives.

If you’re ready to start building your self-confidence, you need to get rid of these sabotaging habits:


Stop making fun of yourself and putting yourself down. Putting yourself down will only destroy any confidence you have and make others lose faith in you. People who put themselves down all the time aren’t fun people to be around. 

It’s on the opposite end of the spectrum from people who are always telling you how great they are, and you don’t really want to be around those people either. Instead, remind yourself how great you are and what you’re capable of.

Negative Self-Talk

The things we say to ourselves inside our heads are much worse than anything we’d say out loud to others. When you realize you’re criticizing yourself, ask yourself if you’d say those things to someone you care about. 

We can be our own worst critics, putting ourselves down at every opportunity. But if you wouldn’t say it to someone you love, don’t say it to yourself.

Comparing Yourself to Others

It’s easy to look at someone else’s life and compare it to yours. They have more money, a better car, a better job, more talent, and they’re better looking, you get the idea. We’ve all done it at some time or another. But it can destroy our self-esteem. 

We all walk different paths, make different choices, and have various opportunities. Comparing yourself to others is like comparing apples and oranges. Look at all the beautiful things in your life that other people don’t have.

Focusing on What Other People Think

That’s just a waste of time. It would be best to let go of what other people think as their opinions don’t really matter. According to an article in “When we start to rely on what other people think of us, and we make their opinion pivotal to our success, we get into trouble. We start tailoring our lives to fit the expectations of others, and from there it’s a vicious cycle.”

What matters most is how you feel about yourself and if you’re happy with who you are. It’s nobody else’s place to judge your life.

Holding On To Mistakes

We all make mistakes, and, in most cases, there’s nothing we can do to fix them. The best we can do is learn from them, move on, and try to do better the next time. And, if necessary, apologize. 

Continuing to dwell on your mistakes will chip away at your self-confidence and make you more likely to make them again because you’re focused on them. Mistakes are part of being human, and they don’t make you a failure. Learn from them and move on.

Building your self-confidence is one of the best things you can do for yourself and one of the best gifts you can give yourself and others around you. Let go of sabotaging behaviors and value the beautiful person you are.

I Am Here To Help

Feeling confident when applying for a job or during an interview can help you land your dream job.  If you find yourself in a situation where you need career advice or interview support and want to talk about planning for your future, reach out to me,  Rachel Schneider with Career Find for a free Intro Call.  I would love to speak with you to determine if I can help you accomplish your goals.